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  • There are some days as a father that don’t look like anything special from the outside. No medals. No milestones. No perfect Instagram pictures. Just a garage, a stubborn old dirt bike, and a boy who thinks the world of his dad. Yesterday, my son and I spent the whole day trying to get his…

  • By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org We crave Lego. Furniture assembly. Construction. Definitive rights and wrongs. Not because we’re rigid. Not because we’re simple. But because in a world that constantly betrays our senses, we long for something tangible — something where the rules hold, where patterns stay, where right and wrong are knowable. But here’s the…

  • By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org Founder, BrainButterfly™ & ADHDChildFund™ Let’s talk about English. Specifically: who invented this language, and why did they clearly despise neurodivergent people. “I before E, except after C.” Great. Thanks. Except for: weird height neighbor foreign their science OH. So basically: “Here’s a rule. Just kidding — the rule doesn’t work.” Let’s…

  • By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org I’ve been thinking about why I — and so many like me — have resisted literature our whole lives. Not because we’re unintelligent. Not because we’re lazy. Not because we’re uninterested. But because the systems of language have betrayed us. We were punished for not being able to “sound it out”…

  • ✨ Calm Was My Weapon of Choice: A Neurodivergent Father’s Story

    By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org On July 11, 2025, I stood at the Brantford Courthouse, papers in hand, my 7-year-old son at my side. We weren’t there just to file an affidavit — we were there to protect his rights, to seek justice after someone we trusted crossed a line. As a father and as someone…

  • By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org Learning to Parent the Child Who Thinks They Have to Earn Your Love The other day, my child said something that stopped me in my tracks: “I don’t want to disappoint you out of fear. And I know you expect me not just to try, but to do it.” No attitude.…

  • 🔌 The Edison Gene: Why ADHD Isn’t a Disorder — It’s a Leadership Code

    By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org “We’re born leaders. We’re not wired to follow. We think for ourselves.” That’s not dysfunction. That’s design. — When people think of ADHD, they usually think of: Chaos Disruption Trouble A label stamped onto a child’s file to explain why they don’t sit still, why they question everything, why they can’t…

  • 🧠Joking Shouldn’t Hurt: Helping My Son Find His Play Bubble

    By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org There’s a moment every neurodivergent parent recognizes. When a joke—meant to be playful—suddenly turns into a flood of tears. That moment happened with my son. Like many kids with ADHD and big hearts, my son is still learning the invisible social rules of joking. He tries on humor the way some…

  • 🔶Getting Back Up Was the Only Backup Plan I Had

    By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org There was no roadmap. No guidebook. No fallback plan tucked away for when life exploded. From the moment I was born, life came at me fast — and hard. And every time I got knocked down, the same truth echoed in my nervous system: “Get up.” Not because it was safe.…

  • 🧠 When the Messages Come Faster Than My Brain Can Respond

    By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org I read the text. Then I read it again. My brain didn’t freeze— it just didn’t finish loading. And while I sat there, trying to sort through feelings, tone, and what I even wanted to say, the follow-up messages rolled in. “???” “Are you ignoring me?” “Hello?” “Why won’t you answer?”…