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🧠🦋 About — BrainButterfly, HeartChameleon Site Author: Kevin Sarasin ADHD Father. Advocate. Coach. Neurodivergent AF. ⸻ 🦋 Welcome to the Nest Hey, I’m Kevin — a dad, neurodivergent advocate, ADHD coach, and someone who’s had to fight damn hard to be understood in a world that doesn’t slow down for people like me… or my son. This space is personal. It’s emotional. It’s built from lived experience, systemic failures, and the kind of pain that turns into purpose. BrainButterfly, HeartChameleon is more than a blog — it’s a nest for nervous systems like ours. ⸻ 💡 Why I Started This Blog I started this after my son Nash — 7 years old, neurodivergent, bright as the sun — was stabbed at school. Stabbed. And even after everything we’d tried to do right… the system failed him. Again and again. He was bullied, dismissed, emotionally injured, and misunderstood. He was masked, silenced, and told to be someone he’s not. And I saw myself in him. Every day. So this blog was born. 🧡 To share our story. 🧠 To connect with others who are living it. ✊ To advocate for change — in schools, in families, and in society. We are not wired to follow. We are born leaders. We think for ourselves. We were never the problem — we’re just not algorithm-brained like the rest of the world. ⸻ 💬 What You’ll Find Here • Real stories about ADHD, masking, trauma, and parenthood • Tools for families navigating the education system • Resources on emotional processing and generational healing • A raw, no-BS look at what it means to raise — and be — a neurodivergent soul • A space for you to feel less alone ⸻ 🦎 BrainButterfly. HeartChameleon. Our brains are like butterflies: slow processors, fast thinkers, deeply intuitive. Our hearts are like chameleons: adaptive, reactive, sensitive to emotional temperature. This brand is built around a truth many of us live every day: We are not “too much.” We are processing in a world that rarely gives us space to do so.
🦋 We’re Not Wired to Follow

🦋 We’re Not Wired to Follow

By Kevin | BrainButterfly.org

They called it disobedience.

I now know it was a nervous system trying to survive.

They said I had a bad attitude.

But I was masking fear, confusion, and overwhelm.

They punished me for asking questions.

Now I teach my kids that curiosity is courage.

Growing up neurodivergent in a world that demanded conformity meant I had two choices: shrink or explode. I learned to shrink. To stay quiet. To follow rules even when they made no sense. I became a master at pleasing, avoiding, surviving.

And for a long time, I thought that was normal.

Then I became a father—and I saw it happening all over again.

This Blog is a Rebellion

This blog isn’t just about me. It’s for every child who’s been made to feel like a problem. Every parent still healing from fear-based parenting. Every adult who was told they were “too sensitive,” “too much,” or “not enough.”

BrainButterfly is a place where we shed our camouflage—like chameleons who’ve been hiding for too long—and finally let our true colours fly.

We’re not here to teach our kids to fit in.

We’re here to show them they were never broken.

What You’ll Find Here

🧠 Real stories about parenting, ADHD, and nervous system wisdom

🧡 Reflections on trauma, people-pleasing, and how we heal

đź“š Resources for families raising neurodivergent kids

đź›  Tools, graphics, and community for cycle-breakers and cycle-healers

Why I Started This

Because I’ve lived it.

Because I see it in my own children.

Because I know what happens when feelings go unheard, when systems silence voices, when kids are told to “just behave” instead of being understood.

Because we’re not wired to follow—we’re wired to feel, connect, and create.

And because this time, I choose to respond with compassion instead of control. To raise my kids the way I wish I was raised. To listen. To understand. To protect the spark.

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This isn’t just a blog. It’s a nest for neurodivergent minds and gentle hearts.

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🦋 With heart,

Kevin

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